Don’t become this frog…
An experience was realised on the capacity of a frog to resist at high temperature. A frog was put into a saucepan filled of water. The scientist switched on the hotplate to bring the water to the boil. During all the experience time, the frog stayed inside the saucepan.
She resisted facing the temperature increase. Nevertheless, when the temperature became too much hot, near to the boiling, the frog wanted to jump to run away but she couldn’t. Why? Because, while she was resisting, she used all her strength and when it was too difficult for her to resist, she was too exhausted to jump, and she died.
If only she decided to go out before, if only she accepted that the situation was bad for her and decided to change things before…
The Oak and the Reed
Who do you want to be? The Oak or the Reed?
The oak is known for its majesty, its robustness, its sturdiness whereas the reed is known for its fragility, its vulnerability, its flexibility. If you only read that last sentence, I guess you prefer becoming an oak rather than a reed. But, if someone applies pressure on you, if you receive a negative strength from your environment, what will happen?
On one side, the oak will resist again and again and will eventually break at the end. On another side, the reed will bend before the storm, it will accept this pressure and follow the flow to stay in life and to continue growing up. This is a kind of resilience. After the storm, the good weather will be coming. If you resist and you break, you will never see the coming sun. So, resistance or resilience? the oak or the reed?
An illustration about my own life
While I’m writing down this article, I’m living my first experience outside my own country. I’m 25.
I have been a long time an oak in front of the English language. I said, “I will never talk in English ». Nevertheless, one day I understood that I won’t be able to travel, to meet different people, to get my dream job, to discover how the world is offering a wealth of opportunities. Today, I have the feeling to losing a lot of time without this opportunity to open my mind and to learn from other cultures.
So, I aim to become a reed. I recognize my weaknesses and I work on it. I try to improve myself; I go out my comfort zone and I know I will never be the best, but I do my best to understand my failing, my fear to talk in English and to change all of that.
I jumped before the water boils, and I stopped to resist facing the wind. This is my little resilience; this is a little step but it’s mine and I’m proud of it.
And you, have you changed from an oak to a reed one day in your life?